When Your Life No Longer Fits
The Soul Script Workshop Recap
Have you ever had this feeling deep down inside that you have something to offer the world but you’re not sure how to deliver it? Maybe you wonder how other people are able to find their “thing” and find success. I know that feeling because I’ve been/am that person. For a long time I just knew in my heart I wanted to contribute something to the world. I knew I had something to offer but I couldn’t figure out what it was. My 20’s and 30’s were filled with so much quiet frustration as I would try my hand at different things. Youtube, handmade cards and home decor, working as a professional writer - but two things have always remained. Storytelling and a desire to understand this crazy unique journey called life.
Little did I know that it wasn’t about me failing at finding my thing but rather it was about the time needed for everything God was teaching me to “bake” together.
I want to share the journey of how I came up with The Soul Script workshop for two reasons:
So if you are that person who knows they have something to offer but aren’t sure what it is or how to deliver it - you can see a bit behind the curtain of how this works.
So I can share with you what the heck The Soul Script Workshop is.
Coming up with the Soul Script concept.
The Soul Script concept actually was formed through exploring a different concept.
Lemme esplain’…
A few years ago, I came up with this concept called The Sparkle State™ when I was teaching people how to feel more confident on camera during the pandemic. It really caught on in my community, and I thought this would make a great book idea! So I ended up working with a friend who helps people write and publish their non fiction books.
Let me pause and shout out my friend who is a strategic genius - I’m looking at you Erica Akingboye!
As I wrote, I started trying to build a framework for getting into your Sparkle State. We brainstormed all kinds of ways to creatively communicate the ideas in the book. I started to develop the seeds of Soul Script™ as a way to get to one’s Sparkle State.
The more I wrote, the more the ideas expanded… but they never really landed.
Bars.
So I put the book down.
Honestly, I thought it was over.
In addition I had this horrible feeling I was disappointing my friend.
But that’s impossible with real friends.
A few months later, I joined a coaching program for creatives called Monetize Your Creative. I was pivoting in my business and trying to find new ways to share my skills and generate income. I explored several ideas, but nothing gave me that Eureka! moment I was waiting for.
During a one-on-one session, I shared the idea I had left on the shelf for almost a year.
My business coach couldn’t believe I had been sitting on it.
She encouraged me to dust it off and explore using it again. The idea started going through several iterations.
Take One…
I offered a workshop opportunity after a screening of two of my films at a festival. I crafted my story and made my offer from the stage. I was prepared! I had well designed graphics for the screen as well as the QR code ready to take everyone to a sign up page. When I shared it everyone eagerly took their cameras to take a picture of the QR code! I was ecstatic!
But alas, no one signed up for my offer.
My mistake:
The QR code went to a google form asking questions instead of letting people directly pay of the workshop.
So I went back to the drawing board.
Take Two…
I pulled out this idea that I had after speaking with several women about how they were feeling in their lives. Many of them weren’t feeling like they were the main character of their own life. My sister really hit the nail on the head when she said she wanted to feel like the leading lady of her own life!
I knew I could help because I was going through that phase myself and finding my way through. I was just a little bit ahead of the women (and some men) that I was talking to.
So I came up with another idea.
I would do an online workshop for to help women use their stories to become the leading lady in their own life.
I worked on a free webinar to lead people to the sale of the workshop, but I wasn’t feeling great about it. I wasn’t excited, but I kept putting one foot in front of the other.
But I wasn’t feeling that excited about it for some reason. I think I was intimidated by having the screen between me and the other women for the first workshop. I knew I wanted to really get a feel of how the material was working.
Then, on one of our weekly calls, my coach suggested I forget about doing it online and try something in person. And something inside me lit up. I felt that spark. I got excited about the idea of something intimate that was in the room, face to face, soul to soul.
You mean I’m allowed to do that?
That’s when the excitement finally started to rise up! I could see the event in my mind immediately!
Side note #1: Don’t get so caught up in how you think something should be done that you take out the options that would fit how you would do things best.
I immediately hired a friend I had worked with before to help me get a workbook together. She went above and beyond not only creating a beautiful workbook but helping me with social media and marketing, too.
Why I decided to do The Soul Script™ Workshop?
It wasn’t just one part of me showing up — it was all of me. Not just my love of film or storytelling, but my heart for emotional and spiritual growth.
I had lived through so much between the Sparkle State™ idea and now.
I’d been hit by a car.
I was recovering from my injuries by learning about how to reset my nervous system.
I had experienced deep burnout.
I started deconstructing my faith.
I sent my two oldest off to college.
I directed my hardest film project ever.
I started consistent therapy.
I started setting boundaries.
I grieved relationships.
I started healing.
Honestly, I’m a different person now.
I was having more and more conversations with other women (and some men) about this weird, in-between time in life that no one seems to talk about.
Side note #2: Get in conversations with people about your ideas. Talking to humans in your target market is a great way to validate and refine your ideas.
Many of us are quietly reconfiguring ourselves during mid-life -and it’s hard, because no one gives us a map.
Some people ignore the tug. Others answer the call.
They start questioning their beliefs, challenging ideologies, re-evaluating their lives. They begin to mature. To choose what they want to keep, and what they want to let go of. Their world begins to grow — or shrink — depending on the choices they make. Neither is bad.
I realized that I could bring all of it — my life, my growth, and my decades of work in storytelling and therapeutic arts — to the table. I could create a space for real transformation.
The First Soul Script Workshop
The first Soul Script Workshop was amazing! You can click on the image below to watch the reel! :)
There was a lot of prep beforehand, but thankfully I had the wisdom to ask for and receive help.
I entered that space open and grounded.
And the women showed up. Fully.
There was laughing, crying, storytelling, and conversation. I incorporated art activities that the women loved — and honestly, I was surprised at how deeply they engaged with them. Watching them express themselves in new ways was beautiful.
One of my superpowers is asking questions and holding space for people. But I didn’t anticipate just how deep we’d go. Or how much post-workshop processing the women would do in the days that followed.
That’s how I knew something real happened. Something that lasts.
I was especially touched by the women who came, knowing this was a beta experience — and still gave their full day to it.
I learned a lot, including that this needs to be a two- or three-day workshop in the future so there’s time for deeper reflection and integration.
But maybe the biggest thing I learned was this: you learn and grow by doing. Not just by talking about it. And that thing I had been holding inside? It resonated. Deeply.
Side note #3: There is a moment you have to get out of “theory land.” You LITERALLY cannot know the answer to certain things unless you TAKE ACTION. There are things you learn that only come from experience.
For the woman who feels like something is changing within her.
If you’ve been feeling like your life doesn’t quite fit anymore — like something is shifting but you can’t name it — I want you to know:
It may not feel like it right now but this can be a beautiful time in life if you have the right perspective. It’s a time of growth - just like those hard years of adolescence. In fact, I’ve hear this time called “the second adolescence” .
Lean in.
You are not alone. And this is part of life.
Richard Rohr calls it the second journey. The liminal space. That in-between season where you’ve outgrown the old version of yourself, but the new one hasn’t fully taken shape yet.
Our society doesn’t have room for this season. For women or for men.
In fact, it fights against it.
This society is designed to keep us busy, distracted, grinding, disconnected. We’re easier to control that way - when we’re too tired to ask questions, challenge ideologies, or examine the faith we were handed.
But what this world doesn’t realize is that going on the hard, scary journey towards our inner selves creates a person a little closer to being self - actualized.
And we need more of those.
When this journey first started for me, I was scared. I didn’t know what was happening. I couldn’t stop the questions. I couldn’t keep playing the part people expected of me. I couldn’t hold up the facade anymore.
I needed to take care of myself — really take care of myself — for the first time in my life.
It felt like my world was crumbling… but it wasn’t.
It’s so weird - I was bound by not setting boundaries.
Then, with every boundary I set, with every truth I spoke, I was becoming more free.
What I hope women leave with after The Soul Script Workshop.
I hope that every person who comes to the Soul Script Workshop begins to understand themselves better.
I hope they find space to ask:
Why do I do this this thing that is kinda making me sad?
Where did I learn that?
And what is it doing to my soul?
How can I break free?
I hope they leave with a deeper connection to their true selves. I hope they find community. I hope they feel less alone. I hope they see beauty in the journey.
Because answering the call to metamorphosis isn’t easy.
It’s sacred.
What Does “The Call” feel like?
The Soul Script Workshop is essentially a way to walk through answering the call to your second life journey.
In the hero’s journey we talk about something called “the call to adventure”. It’s when the protagonist is given an opportunity to step outside of their ordinary life.
Being faced with that opportunity can lead a person into a bit of a crises or debate on whether they should answer the call.
For me it felt like a stirring inside.
I wasn’t able to react the same way I used to whether I wanted to or not!
One might feel overwhelmed or exhausted, like they can’t keep up the act anymore.
One becomes tired of performing.
It takes self-awareness to even notice this at first.
But then comes the next part — acceptance.
It can feel easier to reject these feelings and scary to let them in and examine them.
Don’t be afraid of who you’re becoming.
For me, therapy helped me process. As I started setting boundaries and making changes, I felt guilt, shame, and fear rise up. I was acting outside my normal patterns.
The truth was that those “normal patterns” were hurting me. That discomfort was part of the rewiring. It was the death of old trauma responses.
When I answered the call, yes, it was scary…
But what I gained was so much greater than what I let go of.
I began to realize I could protect myself. I didn’t need trauma responses to do it for me. I realized I had been people-pleasing to avoid rejection. But the truth is: rejection can’t hurt me now.
That’s freedom.
And from there, it grows.
We all have demons to face — people-pleasing, perfectionism, fear of rejection, lack of boundaries — but when we ignore the call, we begin to wither.
We harden. We become bitter. We reinforce a false self just to survive. And our authentic selves suffer.
It’s like The Sunken Place in Get Out — except this time, we do it to ourselves.
If you’ve ever met someone who seems bitter, resentful, and emotionally distant, that’s probably what happened. They didn’t have the courage or the support to live authentically.
And that life? It gets small. Regretful. Quietly painful.
But that doesn’t have to be your story.
I’ve always dreamed of living a big, beautiful life.
Even in my 20s, I looked at the self-possessed women in their 50s at church and thought, That’s where it’s at! I didn’t know what it took to become her — but now I do.
And I will be going into my 50s with a deep reverence for the courage it takes.
Because answering the call?
That’s the beginning of metamorphosis.
The Recap.
If you want to come up with your own workshop…or anything really.
Believe you have something to offer the world.
Explore your ideas until you feel like you know your stuff and you’ve identified a need for your stuff.
Explore a way to deliver your stuff in a way your people like to receive stuff.
While you explore don’t do it alone. Talk to people, create, fail and KEEP GOING!
Create a support system that will keep encouraging you even when you feel scared.
Identify the areas you suck in and get some help in those areas. I’m serious.
Do it messy. I don’t care if this sounds cliche. Your favorite performer sucked in when they started. Lower your expectations and do it messy. The next time will be better.
Want to be part of the next Soul Script Experience?
I’m currently evaluating what the next Soul Script experience will be. If you want to stay in touch and be the first to know what’s next you, please subscribe to The Letters to the Creative Soul and I’ll be sure to keep you in the loop!
If you’re just starting your own metamorphosis, I’d love to hear where you are in the journey. Feel free to hit reply or leave a comment. You’re not alone.